Evan Evans writes the books he wishes someone had handed him.
Author. Relationship educator. Coach. Creator of the Things I Wish Someone Told Me series — a growing library of books, assessments, workbooks and courses built around one idea: most relationship regret is preventable, if you have the conversation before the decision.
“The conversation is the relationship.”
Section 01 — The Origin
It started with a move-in that should not have happened.
The first book in the series was not written to launch a brand. It was written because the author moved in with someone he should not have moved in with, and stayed far longer than the relationship deserved, because the conversations that would have made the decision obvious were conversations the two of them never had. By the time the lease ended, so had two and a half years of his life — and the realisation that the cost was not the breakup. The cost was that the decision had never been made consciously at all.
What followed was two years of reading everything available on relationship decision-making — the academic literature on cohabitation outcomes, the financial-psychology research on money scripts, the conflict-repair work coming out of family therapy, and the long, mostly unread studies on what actually predicts whether a couple stays together. The pattern that emerged was striking: the couples who lasted were rarely the ones with the most love. They were the ones who had asked each other a small, specific set of questions before the decision was made for them.
That is the entire premise of the series. Not advice. Not therapy. Just the questions, frameworks and language most couples never receive — delivered at the exact moment a decision is in front of them, written in plain English, and built to be used together rather than alone.
Section 02 — The Philosophy
Decision-first. Not therapy.
Most relationship content is built for couples already in crisis. It arrives after the affair, after the blow-up, after the silent February when one of them quietly decided it was over. By that point the useful work is often repair work — slow, expensive, and sometimes too late. The Things I Wish Someone Told Me series takes the opposite position. It is built for the moment before the decision: before the lease, before the wedding, before the baby, before the breakup that did not need to happen.
This is relationship decision education, not therapy. The work is structured, conversational, and practical. Each book takes a single decision — moving in, getting married, talking about money, deciding whether to stay — and gives you the questions, the framing, and the shared language to make that decision consciously. There is no pathologising of either partner. There is no assumption that the relationship is broken. There is only the belief that a decision made with full information beats a decision made by drift, every single time.
Where the work touches territory that belongs to a qualified therapist — abuse, addiction, infidelity, mental health — the series says so plainly and points you toward the right help. The aim is not to replace professionals. It is to make sure that the predictable, preventable frictions in a relationship get addressed before they become the kind of problem a professional is needed to untangle.
Section 03 — The Method
Five steps. One decision at a time.
The series follows a single, repeatable arc — the same shape whether the decision in front of you is moving in, getting married, or deciding whether to stay.
Assess
A free, five-minute assessment surfaces where the unanswered questions actually are — not where you assume they are.
Understand
A personalised result band tells you what your score means, what most couples in your position get wrong, and what to focus on first.
Talk
Guided workbooks and structured conversations surface the questions you have not yet asked each other — before the lease, before the wedding.
Decide
You make the decision — move in, marry, stay, leave — with full information instead of drift, assumption, and silent compromise.
Grow
Courses and membership deepen the skills most couples never build: repair, money, conflict, and the slow craft of staying.
Section 04 — What's Here
A full ecosystem, built around one decision at a time.
The series is not a single book. It is a connected ecosystem of formats, each one designed for a different moment in the same decision. Start with the free assessment — five minutes, 25 questions, a personalised Readiness Score from zero to one hundred. The score tells you where the unanswered questions actually are, and the result band recommends the book, workbook or course that maps to your situation.
The books are the spine of the series: twenty titles planned, each one taking a single decision and giving it the full treatment — the framing, the questions, the frameworks, and the language to have the conversation out loud. The workbooks are the practical companions: structured PDFs you and your partner work through together, with journaling space for both of you and decisions-to-capture summaries that turn conversation into commitment.
The courses go deeper, for couples who want guided structure across several weeks. The membership gives ongoing access to new monthly content, live events, and the full back catalogue. And the articles — the field notes — are the free, regularly published essays that take a single question and unpack it in fifteen minutes of reading. Whatever stage you are at, there is a format built for it.
The Series
Twenty books. One decision per book.
Each title takes a single relationship decision and gives it the full treatment — the questions, the framing, and the language to have the conversation before it's too late.
Start with the free assessment.
Five minutes. 25 questions. A personalised Readiness Score and a tailored recommendation from Evan Evans — the fastest way to find the conversation you have not had yet.